- "Répondez s'il vous plaît", is a formal French phrase that, directly translated, means "Respond please" where "vous" is the plural or formal version of "you"; more simply, it means "Please answer". It is with this meaning that invitation cards and similar documents are often marked with "RSVP".
I do not know if it's because our parents' generation did not ingrain the importance of it into the heads of my generation like their folks before them did, or if it's because we're now in a "fast food" culture that wants what they want now and don't think much outside of their own self fulfillment. Regardless of the reason, it's no good and annoying!
Without people respecting the need and importance of the RSVP, they are in essence often causing the people who plan the event stress, extra finances as they end up buying too much food out of the possibility people will just show up, and/or being purely inconsiderate.
I cannot tell you how many times over the last several months I've had friends complain about the lack of response from folks... even when wedding invitations have a stamped and addressed rsvp card in the envelope, people let it sit without a care or notice.
Now, I understand that SOMETIMES things happen, and folks just forget - but the reality is this is RARELY the reason that so many stink at sending in rsvp's or taking the time to email or call that they will be there or cannot make it. I say it's really because people are either:
- Waiting for the next best thing and do not want to commit in case something better shows up - THAT'S STUPID AND WRONG BY THE WAY,
- Just plain inconsiderate of other people's time, attention to details and finances,
- They don't care, or
- Don't want to hurt someone's feelings by saying they don't want to come or cannot be there. (ps. you wouldn't hurt someone's feelings, they rather KNOW than not, promise!)
I think we are... to prove it to you all I have to is take you to the grocery store parking lot, stand there for 5 minutes and you'll watch person after person leave the grocery cart in the middle of a parking spot rather than walking it 20 feet or less to the cart holder... L.A.Z.Y - and we wonder why there is a problem with obesity in this country...but I digress.
We have lost the art of the rsvp. What can YOU do about that?
Ps. I'm not saying that I haven't EVER forgotten to RSVP, I know I have - HOWEVER.... the more events I've planned and the more I'm hearing from my network of friends and family that plan things, learning how lack of rsvp hurts those hosting - we have got to figure out a way to be more considerate in this department. I'm making a point by this post that I too will yearn to be a pro at the rsvp... not dismissing the art - making it important and a priority to do!
I'm stepping off my soapbox now... but seriously!?